Divorcing your spouse doesn’t end the marriage

                Problems in any aspect of life are inevitable without the exception of marriage, but as individuals how do we tackle those problems when they show up? As married couples how do you approach such problems? What is your reaction to such problems? Well some of these questions will be answered.

            As we all know marriage is an institution ordained by God, marriage is when two different individual come together to become one body. Genesis 2:24; “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Marriage has being in existence since the creation of man, when God put Adam to sleep and took out a rip to make him a companion which he called WOMAN. Marriage is a sacred union that cannot be broken, a union between a man and a woman to become one.

             In recent times, the rate of divorce between couples is alarming and somewhat disheartening, do these people remember the vows they took, do they even remember they stood before a priest, pastor, or an ordained minister and took vows to love till death do thy path. Most cases of incidents the excuses given is there is no more love, or I made a wrong choice, he/she is not the right one for me. After courting such person for number of months or years, it didn’t occur to you that she isn’t the woman for you or he isn’t the man for you. Marriage is not a hotel where you can just check in and check out as you want, you can’t possibly say “I do” and the next minute you want to terminate the union, well in case you have forgotten let me remind that marriage is till death. For some they say “the love has faded or isn’t being reciprocated,” that isn’t an excuse, there are marriage counselors and spiritual guide that can help resolve such problems. Analyze the cause of the problem, when it started, and why it started, all these are key to solving the problem at hand.

            Divorce doesn’t end the marriage, considering the vows you took in the presence of God and you family until death. Romans 7: 1-3 “marriage is a permanent bond between a man and a woman that is intended to last until death,” Matthew 19:6 “for what therefore God has put together let no man separate,” even in any religion, tribe, or ethnic group, vows are sacred oath taken to ensure your commitment to a task, and vows cannot be broken or can you be freed from it. We all think well when I’m tired with the marriage I’ll just file for a divorce, I’ll call my lawyers and look for a peaceful way to dissolve the marriage, and the judge can only free you from your responsibility as a husband but cannot free you from your vows of marriage. In Nigeria there are some local traditional gods like Sango and amadioha, just imagine taking an oath of marriage in any shine of these traditional gods, and 10 years down the line you decide to file for a divorce, the thunder that will strike won’t be friendly at all, because the bible says “God is gentle and slow to anger,” doesn’t give you the right to take advantage of that and seek for a divorce. If you have any problem in the marriage settle down, discuss and resolve it. Divorce is never an option in marriage because it doesn’t end it PERIOD!!