marriage reveals the other side of a coin

Being happily married is the dream of every woman (or man in some cases), where both the man and woman leave their family to form a new one. People marry for so many reasons; for love, social climbing, political aspirations, to make babies (to inherit properties) and so on. At a very young age, girls already have a description of the kind of man they want for a husband – some, a job description to go with.

For some, marriage is a bed full of roses and for others it’s filled with thorns. Having a loving relationship before marriage, doesn’t guarantee a happy married life. When dating, people tend to conceal their true nature; making their partner believes they are saints. Lovers exhibit about 50 percent of their character while dating and the other 50 percent after marriage, resulting to different problems in the marriage. Couples complain of not recognizing their spouses anymore – seeing a different side of whom they married. For example, while dating someone, the love story at that point maybe as strong as an Indian romantic movie, then somewhere down the line it becomes hell due to rising issues.

As they say ‘love is blind’ but what many don’t know is ‘marriage is an eye opener’, this is a known fact that many aren’t aware of. Love makes you overlook your partner’s flaws and mistakes, but are these privileges enjoyed in marriage? Five to ten years into the marriage, the love would be strong and still blind, but down the line it becomes boring (to an extent) – opening your eyes to flaws which would normally be ignored.

Most couples go for counseling some years after marriage, with complains of their spouse being a different person – changed into something un-recognizable. That person, which you believe has changed, didn’t really change a single bit; just like a coin, he or she was showing you heads while dating, then immediately after marriage flips over to tails.

Typical example is celebrity couple Tiwa savage and Tee-bliss like every other couple; they dated for a while before marriage. Tiwa savage accused her husband of changing, and becoming a drug addict after marriage – a trait which she never saw during the course of them dating. In his defense, he blamed his up-bringing – meaning he had always being like that. Question is, did he exhibit these traits before marriage, or was she blinded by love to see them? Well, this is a question that only God and they know the answer to. But, for the fact that Tiwa didn’t discover about his vices before marriage, proves marriage reveals that deep inner beast in you – opening your eyes to reality.

There are two or more sides to a person; be it good or bad. People will only show you what you want to see – impressing your partner with your good character has always being the goal of dating. Dating for a long time, doesn’t mean you know your partner’s true nature completely. Regardless of how long you have known someone, guarantee’s nothing, because no-one truly knows anyone except one- self.